NEVER BYPASS INTIMACY

Over the past few days some words of Henry Blackaby have been echoing through my mind continuously. They’re a short expression he uses frequently in his book Experiencing God, namely, “never bypass intimacy.”

He’s referring to the tendency we have to skip meeting with God each day. That’s what a bypass is, after all – a route that allows you to miss or skip around something else. A country town near where I was raised has a distinctive “bypass” that allows through traffic to avoid the cluttered main street. It’s a great thing. It saves time and the frustration of having to negotiate threatening intersections.

But not all bypasses are good for us. That’s certainly true of bypasses that take us around regular meetings with God. Yet they are a very common variety. There’s nothing easier than to begin (or end) a hectic day with the thought that we are too busy (or tired) to spend time with God – after all, he knows and understands!

But there’s more to this statement than a warning against not spending time with God. Blackaby is stressing the need not to bypass intimacy.  He has something special in mind when he speaks of that. He’s not referring just to the disciplines of worship, Bible reading and prayer; he’s talking about really meeting with God and conversing with him. That’s what intimacy involves. It means more than a quick “hello” or a routine conversation. Intimacy is about letting someone else into your heart, about sharing your inner secrets. It’s about unburdening your hurts, cares, special joys and needs. And it involves listening to theirs too. Intimate relationships are typically two-way and involve deep heart communion.

That kind of relationship is possible with God. The Psalms of the Old Testament show this is so. But intimacy with God is not something that we can experience at the click of our fingers. We can’t turn it on and off at will. A genuine meeting with God requires that we seek him earnestly with our whole heart. It demands a readiness to wait on God, to get our hearts right with God, to listen carefully to what he might be saying to us through his Spirit and Word. Often that kind of interaction can’t be rushed. And it usually requires a calm and quiet spirit. Because of that, it’s easy to bypass – to avoid altogether, or, more commonly, to take the easier route of substituting routine religious activities.

We lose something invaluable when we do this. There is nothing like an intimate encounter with the Lord to renew our strength (Isaiah 40:31). It’s in those quiet conversations with him that we often find the inner peace and wisdom that we need. They are the fountain from which the activities of an effective life flow.

I had a fresh experience of this inner renewal this morning (Friday). I woke early aware that I had a challenging day before me. I had to prepare sermon on a difficult passage in the book of Ezra; then I needed to write this Insight, plan and prepare two worship services, get ready for a study tomorrow morning and a Presbytery examination this coming week, meet with a neighbouring minister, and take my son John to his music lesson later in the afternoon.  My “Things to Do” list looked formidable.

As tempting as it was to bypass establishing intimacy with the Lord, I didn’t. Instead I took time to read, pray and study as usual. And in the process I found myself meeting with the Lord closely and personally.  He greatly refreshed me through a verse in John chapter two and deepened my understanding of discipleship through a reference to Romans 6:13 in the book I was reading. I felt nourished and ready for the day. Best of all, I had already talked with him about all that lay before me and knew that he was at hand to work with and through me to accomplish his purposes.

That’s what intimacy with Jesus is about. It is the greatest privilege we can have. And it’s life-changing. Bruce Wilkinson, author of several books and founder of the Walk through the Bible programme, identities the turning point in his life when he determined to get up at a set hour each morning and to “search for God until I found him.” From that point on his ministry expanded in directions he could never have imagined. The same thing can happen for us too if we make his resolution our own.